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Post by Randge on Jan 30, 2016 20:12:58 GMT -6
I haven't been on here much lately as I have been going through separation and early divorce proceedings. It's been rough but I'll live.
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Post by tasteliketape on Jan 30, 2016 20:23:34 GMT -6
I feel for ya man been there done that Thought it was end of the world. But one thing I GUARANTEE IT WILL GET BETTER
All the best to you
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Post by formatcyes on Jan 30, 2016 20:30:51 GMT -6
Round these parts they call it a departure tax. Hang in there.
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Post by tonycamphd on Jan 30, 2016 20:31:31 GMT -6
Hey Randy, sorry to hear this man, keep your head up and keep closer than ever the positive stuff you have going.
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Post by kcatthedog on Jan 30, 2016 21:05:12 GMT -6
Hey Randy, that can be a very challenging change in one's life. Please remember to find time for you in what can be a very confusing dynamic. Things do get better.
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Post by wiz on Jan 30, 2016 21:32:20 GMT -6
Sorry to hear mate.
I have been there... It's shit.
It does get easier and better... It takes time.
I am sure between immediate family and friends there you have all the support you need.... But there is always a place for you here.
Cheers
Wiz
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Post by EmRR on Jan 30, 2016 21:39:00 GMT -6
Sorry to hear. Deep breath....
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Post by ericn on Jan 30, 2016 21:44:22 GMT -6
Sorry to here as the late Paul Kantner said to me many years ago
"Loving somebody is easy, it's living with somebody that sucks"
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Post by yotonic on Jan 30, 2016 21:56:41 GMT -6
Yes it is rough. Remember there is a set of rules to follow to get through this type of thing without detours. The sooner you get to the other side the better. Grieve the loss but keep your focus, it's a real challenge. Good luck. Stay strong.
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Post by Ward on Jan 30, 2016 22:03:39 GMT -6
So very sorry for you. I too have been through this (more than once!) and it never is easy. You will be stronger after all this, and probably write some pretty damned fine songs out of it too.
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Post by lolo on Jan 30, 2016 22:15:19 GMT -6
Sorry to hear Randy. Stay strong brother
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Post by stratboy on Jan 30, 2016 22:28:21 GMT -6
Same as many others, I have gone through a divorce. Heartbreaking whichever side you are on. But same as many others here, I can honestly say, it gets much better. Hang in there, Randy! I'm in my 30th year of my second marriage. I could not have gotten to this place without going through, and learning from, my first.
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Post by WKG on Jan 30, 2016 22:55:21 GMT -6
Sorry to hear that. I could not even imagine what it would be like to have to go through it.
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Post by dandeurloo on Jan 30, 2016 23:27:57 GMT -6
Ugh, sorry to hear.
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Post by keymod on Jan 31, 2016 5:21:06 GMT -6
Been there also. Last year marked twenty years since divorce. Been through a whole lot since, some good some bad and had to start over several times in the process. Keep one foot in front of the other. You are not alone.
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Post by kcatthedog on Jan 31, 2016 6:10:20 GMT -6
One insight, I eventually came to , was that I actually wasn't my relationship: it was ok to just do things the way I liked and to just live my life authentically. The whole moving forward dynamic was really much simpler than. I am talking about respecting self not selfishness, although some self focus now helps the mending. Remember, one guy, can build a hell of a fence but its better with helpful friends  ! |
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Post by indiehouse on Jan 31, 2016 6:26:34 GMT -6
Sorry to hear, man. Hopefully it all remains civil and doesn't get ugly. Stay strong, brother!
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Post by sll on Jan 31, 2016 7:44:15 GMT -6
Sorry to hear this Randy.
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Post by chasmanian on Jan 31, 2016 8:39:52 GMT -6
I've been through heartache that hurt so much, I wished that I was dead.
bad thing, man.
that said, I am happier now than I have ever been in my whole life.
I am alone.
and I am happier now than when I was with someone.
the answer for me, the key for me (I'm talking about my experience here), was learning how to value myself.
and really really value myself highly.
just like I am.
that is completely entirely independent of how anyone else values me.
I have interests now, that keep me so excited and enthused, that I wish I could live forever.
music, astrophysics.
and many many other extremely fun and interesting things.
Randy, I know nearly nothing about you.
but, the little I know, I think that you are a world class musician, and studio owner/engineer.
dude, better days are coming. bet on it.
peace out, brother.
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Post by Johnkenn on Jan 31, 2016 10:44:56 GMT -6
Stay strong, man!
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Post by Martin John Butler on Jan 31, 2016 11:21:07 GMT -6
I'm so sorry to hear about this Randy. Thanks for letting us know about it. You know you have some real and true friends who believe in you, so stay focused on your music, and as I'm sure you know, time will help you heal.
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Post by spock on Jan 31, 2016 16:45:09 GMT -6
Hey big dog, you're in our thoughts, much support out to you.
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Post by unit7 on Jan 31, 2016 17:40:21 GMT -6
More good thoughts sent to you my friend from the other side of the Atlantic and another newly divorced. I've never hanged more with collegues and friends the past year. I'm grateful for the deeper friendship that often grows from making music together. I hope that could be of some comfort for you too. Take care.
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Post by RicFoxx on Jan 31, 2016 20:23:05 GMT -6
Sorry to hear that Randy...,be strong and keep moving forward!
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Post by levon on Feb 1, 2016 0:18:01 GMT -6
Randge, that's a bummer and I feel sorry for you. I know the feeling, went through this several times in my life. Last one was 11 years ago and today, I'm happily married again, lol. Keep your head up, nothing happens without a reason. You'll be good and one thing's for sure, music will never leave you!!
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