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Post by swurveman on Feb 1, 2016 16:46:54 GMT -6
Been there too. Sorry for you to have to go through it. It does get better, but it takes time. Hang in there!
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Post by mobeach on Feb 1, 2016 20:37:45 GMT -6
Me three! Life is full of chapters, a door will open soon for the next one.
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Post by jcoutu1 on Feb 2, 2016 5:37:54 GMT -6
Good luck brother!
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Post by Randge on Feb 2, 2016 10:06:12 GMT -6
Thanks everyone. I appreciate everyone chiming in. It has lifted the spirits.
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Post by geoff738 on Feb 2, 2016 23:17:31 GMT -6
Randy, sorry to hear that.
I'm in exactly the same boat here. Separated almost three years ago, spent a fortune and over a year on useless counselling and hung into a holding pattern for the benefit of our (autistic) kid. The dam broke in October. I no longer reside withmy studio. I could, but I dunno how it would be workable where I am now.
But enough about me. It just plain sux. On every level. Even though we're quasi amicable my lawyers have about 12 grand that could've bought some awesome gear.
I wish I had some useful advice other than take it day by day. But I'm right there with you brother.
I guess the one useful piece of advice which I am not always heeding is to take care of yourself.
Cheers, Geoff
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Post by iamasound on Feb 3, 2016 3:18:35 GMT -6
Hello Brother, I am sorry that you are going through what probably feels as probably one of the most challenging times of your life. You are a very lucky man to have such many good and caring people at this forum and I am sure in your everyday life, friends that are here to support you, both now in this very temporary dip as well until when skies seem a bit brighter and the air feels again lighter. You have so much obvious creative and artistic talent and are one of fortunate because as an artist walking bravely through this world have the innate ability to translate what you feel, see, taste and hear, to filter it through your unique novel and individual gift of perception, craft and taste, to magically transform this into something that approaches...something not elusive but rather a thing which can be held in your hand to examine with another less self critical eye. This can really be of assistance in getting your groove back, to be able to take a deep and relaxed breath and to let it flow naturally with a relaxed ramping up and a slow and gentle release. We are listening and we hear you.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2016 3:57:06 GMT -6
I broke up with my girlfriend a few years ago, like married without certificate. We were together 14 years and she was the love of my life. Hard times, man. But it certainly will get better. Sometimes it is still bitter thinking about it, because the broke up had a tragical aspect. But it got better. Last year she baked me chocolate cookies for christmas and i fixed her computer twice. It was like beeing old friends. Never thought something like this would be possible ever again. Time will tell. Get through it day by day and don't hesistate to get help if things go really bad for you emotionally. It *is* one of life's most tragical events because in most cases it is not because of lack of love but a thousand other reasons...
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Post by Ward on Feb 3, 2016 19:06:32 GMT -6
Thanks everyone. I appreciate everyone chiming in. It has lifted the spirits. EMailed you some songs that might cheer you up.
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Post by henge on Feb 3, 2016 22:14:04 GMT -6
I feel for you man. It truly sucks but it does get better and you'll be stronger and wiser because of it.
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Post by Randge on Feb 8, 2016 17:40:39 GMT -6
A lawyer just took the money I had been saving for a Chandler RS 124. It will be interesting to see what I have left at the end of this crapfest.
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Post by Johnkenn on Feb 8, 2016 18:09:53 GMT -6
ugh
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Post by kcatthedog on Feb 8, 2016 18:10:59 GMT -6
It is natural to feel the frustration of this change, especially if you feel it is imposed on you. I learned the hard way that i was not the things I had purchased or that I wanted to purchase. Ironically, now I have the best recording system I have ever had. When life gives you lemons,,,,, you'll figure out the rest
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Post by drbill on Feb 8, 2016 18:50:59 GMT -6
I hope your situation goes smooth Randy. I think the Chandler is the least of your worries. The personal issues way overshadow the gear, and those can't easily be saved for or put on a card.
A buddy of mine is over 10 years in, close to $1M for his and his wife's attorneys, forensic accountants, etc. - finally got a settlement, and is in the process of hiring new attorney's to get back into the fray. It's cost him a lot more in personal tragedy than the 1M in court and attorney fees. Good luck to you....
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Post by Ward on Feb 8, 2016 20:32:21 GMT -6
Gee whiz, I thought I had it bad at $360,000!! I feel for your buddy, drbill, that is just savage. Some lawyers are just disingenuous conniving thieves making work for each other and bleeding their clients dry... and then there are bad ones too.
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Post by tonycamphd on Feb 8, 2016 20:32:25 GMT -6
A lawyer just took the money I had been saving for a Chandler RS 124. It will be interesting to see what I have left at the end of this crapfest. you'll have the ability to create music, and play your ass off Randy! most would trade their entire studio's for that alone, keep the meaningful things in mind pal, you'll get through this!!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 8, 2016 21:01:59 GMT -6
I agree with Tony. I lost everything more than once in my life. With everything i really mean everything except the roof over my head. Money and things are the least important things in life (i know, i know, many would not agree..) because they can be regained/reaquired or replaced with something better. Friends, partners in life and personal abilities - that's what really hurts and sometimes is a severe permanent loss ... retrospectively. But how is the saying? Understanding life only works backwards, but you have to live it forwards.
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Post by henge on Feb 8, 2016 21:18:16 GMT -6
A lawyer just took the money I had been saving for a Chandler RS 124. It will be interesting to see what I have left at the end of this crapfest. you'll have the ability to create music, and play your ass off Randy! most would trade their entire studio's for that alone, keep the meaningful things in mind pal, you'll get through this!! So true.
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Post by henge on Feb 8, 2016 21:19:47 GMT -6
I agree with Tony. I lost everything more than once in my life. With everything i really mean everything except the roof over my head. Money and things are the least important things in life (i know, i know, many would not agree..) because they can be regained/reaquired or replaced with something better. Friends, partners in life and personal abilities - that's what really hurts and sometimes is a severe permanent loss ... retrospectively. But how is the saying? Understanding life only works backwards, but you have to live it forwards. Same here. Lost everything including the roof over my head. Learned, built it back up stronger and wiser.
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Post by ben on Feb 9, 2016 17:33:31 GMT -6
Sorry man. Time to take care of you. Sending good vibes.
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